We mimicked a Utah family this week and saw a lot of our cousins and aunts and uncles. It was great. Thursday Eliza hosted a baby shower for Jill and Stacey. The best part was that she got to skip school for it. The girls in our family are so cute it hurts; I can't help saying it. We ate quiche and chocolate and made hair pretties. Total girls stuff.
On Saturday we all met at Doug and Julia's for some yard work. They are getting ready to put their house up on the market and this was a show of support and love. Plus we had a lot of fun and got to eat pizza together afterward. I'm always thankful for an opportunity for my kids to work. With all the "helpers" I hope it was worth it for Doug and Julia.
The subject on my mind this week has been the fine line between rules (such as we don't watch rated R movies) and teaching principles (we only watch appropriate movies). I think I rely too heavily on rules to keep my family safe. It's like putting up a barricade to keep out the enemy when I should instead be arming my children to fight battles on their own so they don't have to stay in the compound. At the pornography prevention class I attended last week I learned about white lists rather than black lists. The white list is made up of things we DO, instead of things we don't do. I think I need a greater focus on white lists in my life in general.
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It was a great week last week. Thanks again for the shower. We brought home one of your rakes. The one that has seen better days. As for the teaching the principle and not the rule. I think of comparing it to a fortress. If the only thing your children are doing is fighting then they are never preparing or healing. Thats what our homes are for, a fortress, like the temple, a safe place to prepare and recover. Maybe the rule only needs to be no "M" or "R" rated anythings in this home because we don't want the influence or that spirit here. Then when they go out, the choice is their's to make. They know your rule and they know why, now its up to them to decide if its their rule too.
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